Sunday, March 1, 2009

Gotcha Day!

First things first, I have to give a shout out to my baby brother... Happy Birthday Uncle Steve!
Now for the goods...

We left Beijing early this morning and flew on a very bumpy ride to Nanchang, Jiangxi Province. We got to our hotel about 2 PM and were told that we had 2 hours to unpack and then we needed to be in a conference room at 4 where we would meet the babies. I kicked in the turbo and started unpacking. I was in the middle of unpacking when Doug, who was standing by the window said, "Come here. You're gonna want to see this." Eight stories below us we got our first glimpse of Maddie. He just happended to be looking out the window to take a picture of the view from our room and saw a van full of babies pull in. Sure enough, Maddie was among them. She is the one in blue below - the one furthest to the right. Even from the 8th floor I thought that outfit looked amazingly familiar and I was right - it is the frog snowsuit she was wearing in her most recent photos we had received.
Less than 15 minutes later, at 3:15, Kathryn, our guide called and said, "Come to the conference room now. Your baby is here. Thankfully I had packed the diaper bag so off we went. When we walked into the room, there were 6-8 babies (can't remember exactly). Some of the nannies were standing and others sitting, holding beautiful babies. We walked by Kya and recognized her immediately. However, Maddie looks a LOT like two other babies that are here so we had to check the names on three babies before we found her. She is positively gorgeous.

When the nanny first handed her over to me, she was just very curious - checking us out very closely. It all happened so fast and it was completely unceremonious - a far cry from every scenario I have played out in my head for the past four years. However, I wouldn't trade it for the world. The moment she was placed in my arms, my world felt complete.
She inspected both Doug and me, then reached for Doug so he took her.
She was content with Doug for a minute or two, and he was just beaming with pride. All was going very well then things took a turn, and it was NOT a quiet turn!
The second Madeline started whimpering, Doug handed her back to me with a deer in headlights look. And then the shrieking started. This child has a set of lungs on her that won't quit. (Mom says she sounds like a Graber baby.)
Madeline's diaper was wet so we changed that, thinking that might quiet her down, but nothing seemed to console her. She was just so terrified - her little heart was just pounding and the shrieking and crying did not cease. So we went back to our room to try to console her.
The first thing we did was to peel off the layers to see the baby underneath. She was wearing 4 layers - two of them were thick snowsuit typeoutfits. The top layer was the snow suit she wore in her most recently updated photo. Notice the band of elastic on top of the pile. This is a binding cord - used to hold up her diaper! I have no idea why. And yes, this whole stack of clothes was on one teeny 8 month old child.
Shawn, Kris, Kya, and Kaycee - Kya is also very beautiful. Poor baby, she is very congested and sick. Please pray for good health for both Kya and Maddie.
After we returned to the room, Madeline kept crying, shrieking, and was just so very distraught and terrified. We did everything we could think of to make her happy but absolutely nothing worked.

At one point, there were 4 of us in the room in tears and feeling helpless beyond all imagination. Thank God my Mom came on the trip with us. Today, she was such a HUGE help -running bath water, fixing bottles, running for this, and reaching for that while Doug finished up our day's paperwork and I continued to try to console our terrified daughter.
Finally, after about 2 1/2 hours of pure shrieking, she wore herself out and fell asleep on my chest. She slept for about 25 minutes and when she awoke, while she was still scared, it was more of a whimper and that eventually led to being OK for short periods of time. Those OK moments started to happen more often and last longer.
She loves playing "get your piggies" with Daddy. You probably can't tell from this picture, but Doug is one proud Daddy. I fell in love with him all over again - more than ever, just watching him play with our daughter and coax the first smile and giggle out of her.

The more she warmed up, the more she jabbered "baba, baba" which means daddy in Chinese. For the life of me, I cannot get the little bugger to say mama! But, that's OK... all in good time.

Maddie's dexterity is not nearly as developed as most 8-month olds. The many months of being incapacitated in her Michelan Man costume have hampered her coordination. She does this really crazy thing with her fingers - crosses them.
After taking a bottle, she settled down for a short nap. This feeling - the feeling that washed over me while holding our daughter while she was falling asleep - the love, the undescribable feeling of completeness and harmony - I want to hold onto it forever. Simply amazing. Thank you God for answering our every prayer and for keeping her safe and sound until we could get here.
As I write this, our little angel is fast asleep. She is so very precious. We know that the next few days, and maybe even weeks, are going to be extremely difficult as we all deal with grieving Madelines many losses in her young life. Before Doug went to bed, we were talking about her first smile - the first glimpse of what is to come - that one smile made the rest of the day pale in comparison and made all the tough times so beyond "worth it".
Please continue to pray for us as we deal with this transition. Much love, Doug &Beth, and Baby Maddie

13 comments:

Jill said...

What a cutie pie! CONGRATS you guys!!
We had "the screamer" in Nanchang on gotcha day, but ours lasted 3 DAYS! If my MIL hadn't been there I would have lost it! You do feel so helpless, and just want to make their pain go away....
Good luck guys! I will be praying for you!

Anonymous said...

Beth and Doug she is just so precious. I am so excited for your family. This just brought back so many memories as i sit and read your post and see the pictures. Can't wait to see Maddie when you get home. Enjoy the rest of your time in China.
Jennifer

Linda said...

Beautiful Baby!! My granddaughter Lauren is home form China 5 weeks now.. She is 23 months old and had a very hard adjustment the first few days.. My daughter was crying because she could do nothing for her... After about 3 days Lauren started to come around. She still has some attachment problems in that she is very shy around strangers, but she is certainly showing what a brave and beautiful little one she is. She smiles alot and is now starting to play. It will get so much better , just hang in and you will rewarded with the best gift God could you...
Thank you for allowing us to follow your journey. Linda

Linda said...

Beautiful Baby!! My granddaughter Lauren is home form China 5 weeks now.. She is 23 months old and had a very hard adjustment the first few days.. My daughter was crying because she could do nothing for her... After about 3 days Lauren started to come around. She still has some attachment problems in that she is very shy around strangers, but she is certainly showing what a brave and beautiful little one she is. She smiles alot and is now starting to play. It will get so much better , just hang in and you will rewarded with the best gift God could you...
Thank you for allowing us to follow your journey. Linda

Dave and Shari Graber said...

Baby Maddie:

We are blessed to finally have you in the family. Today, Uncle Dave proudly stood up in church to announce you had finally been given to your mommy & Daddy.

Love,

Aunt Shari

Sheila said...

How I love reading about your experience. I remember Mandy when she first laughed out loud...we tickled her under chin and she laughed. From that moment on she was much more relaxed and happy.
Our prayers continue for you.

Pastor Jamie Hart said...

What a wonderful, wonderful blessing. On the one hand, my heart aches that this poor little baby has endured so much at such a young age...but on the other hand, what a thrill that she now the security and love of godly parents! She is blessed, you are are bless, and only time will tell how God will use all of this for His glory! You have our prayers and any help we can offer!

Dawn said...

CONGRATULATIONS ~ She is adorable!! Aww, those little red cheeks.

dimplesanddumplings said...

She is soooo beautiful!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

I, too, had an 8mo who cried and wailed. It's so nerve-wracking because you want to be sure there's nothing you can fix (illness, discomfort), but there's just no way to know half the time -- at least not for the first few days. Hang in there. Those smiles are definitely a sign of things to come!

I know I mentioned before that Helen couldn't roll over or sit up, and she had a lousy pincer grasp. Once we got home, we had lots of exercises and floor time, and she was all caught up in just a few months. On the bright side, I got to see just about all of her firsts! :)

Enjoy every moment!!!!

Gayle

Pam said...

Beth, Maddie is absolutely beautiful. What a gift God has given you both. Your story brought tears to my eyes this morning as I read your blog and saw the pictures. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Have a safe trip home and I can't wait to meet her in person.

Pam

Anonymous said...

Dear Baby Maddie,

Welcome to the family. We are so excited and happy and can't wait to hold you and see you in person. We are so proud of your mommy and daddy for undertaking this journey. It's been a long wait - nearly 4 years but it's the best birthday present I ever got in my life. Have a safe journey home. We love you so much and can't wait to meet you.

Grandma and Grandpa Patrick

Dori's Mommy (Diana) said...

Congratulations! What a cutie pie! Incredible that you looked out the window and saw the babies come in. I looked out our window (also) at the Galactic Peace and saw the van that held our babies drive up across the street. Even though it wasn't marked, I just knew it had the babes...and found out later that it was. Enjoy your daughter and the rest of the trip!

Anonymous said...

Maddie, Kirsten, Mia, Marjorie and I are so glad that you are a part of our lives too! Praise God that he brought such loving parents into your life.